The train cut through the silent night while most of America slept.
As it snaked through canyons and valleys and across plains and prairies, the mountains that dotted the horizon hours ago now loomed larger than anything *Kaitlyn had ever imagined. With each state that passed beneath the rails of the train, she was one step closer to her final destination. Her kids slept next to her while the moonlight framed her thoughts into a tale only written about others. But this was real; this was happening to her and her children and every bump of the track was a reminder that this was a book she couldn't shut and stop reading.
Indiana felt like an entire lifetime ago and it might as well have been. She was not the same woman who left the flat fields of the Hoosier state for Colorado Springs. She replayed life in Colorado even though it did no good. She tried to make a living as best she could but after seven months, it was time to leave and returning to Indiana was not an option. Her six year-old son stirred in his sleep and she snapped back to her present situation. Daydreaming would not accomplish anything and she needed a concrete reality. Montana had to offer solutions because her options were waning. She didn't notice her eight year-old daughter watching her from out the corner of her eye.
Colorado should have been it, the end of her journey. At the invitation of a good friend, she had moved there to create a viable and thriving life for herself and her two children. For the first three months, everything went well and Kaitlyn was enjoying the change in scenery new surroundings afforded her. Indiana faded away and came to her the way dreams appear to people who remember their past in pieces. Her kids were adjusting and she had no reason to suspect anything sinister was about to happen.
As time progressed, Kaitlyn noticed slight changes in her friend's behavior. It was not a sudden occurrence, or one single particular event, but her living situation slowly changed. Little by little, her friend began assuming a more controlling role. Kaitlyn and her children felt trapped because they knew no one else in Colorado Springs. Their daily lives began to deteriorate as they were held under the thumb of their host. A resounding drive to escape began burning inside her but Kaitlyn understood that would entail a clean break... starting over. Could she do that? Was it possible to break free from what was evolving into an abusive relationship?
A week later she took her kids and left for Denver.
(To be continued)
*Not her real name
Monday, August 17, 2015
Wednesday, August 12, 2015
Education For All
For some kids, education is an incredible tool for creating a bright future and establishing a foundation to succeed in life. For others, it is an opportunity to escape homelessness and break the cycles of poverty that has held them captive. Homeless youth, especially high school students, face obstacles not beholden to kids coming from different backgrounds; kids that have permanent housing.
Homeless children generally fall into two categories: those living in families (whether their own or someone else’s) and those completely on their own. Twenty-seven percent live with relatives, friends, or other families without being legally accounted for on any lease; nearly 75 percent of homeless children live that way, according the National Center on Family Homelessness. The federal definition of a homeless student includes those in families living “doubled up”—for example, with a relative or friend’s family—as well as those living in hotels, parks, bus and rail stations, abandoned buildings, campgrounds, and cars, not mention emergency and transitional shelters
Some teens are homeless with their families. But others are on their own, simply trying to get through life without anyone looking out for their well-being, says Barbara Duffield, director of policy and programs at the National Association for the Education of Homeless Children and Youth.
"They are typically homeless because of a very bad situation at home, abuse or neglect," she says of unaccompanied homeless teens. On the flip side, teens who are homeless with their families may be in a parental role, taking care of younger siblings.
Of the nearly 1.26 million public school students who were homeless during the 2012-2013 school year, about 317,000 were in high school, according to data released last week from the National Center for Homeless Education.
Public schools are required under federal law to ensure homeless students have access to a free public education. Homeless youth are allowed to stay in their school, regardless of where they end up, and schools must provide students transportation to that school.
Housing is among the biggest challenges for the teens she works with, she says, and foster care has not usually been an option for older teens.
Young people who experience homelessness were 87 percent more likely to stop going to school, according to the 2014 Don’t Call Them Dropouts report from the America’s Promise Alliance and its Center for Promise at Tufts University.
One reason it’s so difficult for homeless students to reach graduation is the enormous amount of stress in their lives. An overwhelming number of students there have been exposed to violence of some sort, along with poverty, substance abuse and immigration issues. They’re often in survival mode and sometimes have problems thinking clearly, reasoning and problem solving. The influences of trauma can mimic learning disabilities.
There are a host of stressors associated with homelessness, including substance abuse, poverty, poor nutrition, lack of healthcare, and unsafe and overcrowded living. Many studies have shown the impact this kind of prolonged stress can have on kids. The Adverse Childhood Experiences Study conducted by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention shows stress has detrimental effects on developing neural networks in the brain, especially areas that control memory and verbal ability and mediate anxiety, depression, and anger. For all of these reasons, it can be difficult for many homeless students to learn and retain information.
...Just a few things to think about before school begins in a few weeks.
Homeless children generally fall into two categories: those living in families (whether their own or someone else’s) and those completely on their own. Twenty-seven percent live with relatives, friends, or other families without being legally accounted for on any lease; nearly 75 percent of homeless children live that way, according the National Center on Family Homelessness. The federal definition of a homeless student includes those in families living “doubled up”—for example, with a relative or friend’s family—as well as those living in hotels, parks, bus and rail stations, abandoned buildings, campgrounds, and cars, not mention emergency and transitional shelters
Some teens are homeless with their families. But others are on their own, simply trying to get through life without anyone looking out for their well-being, says Barbara Duffield, director of policy and programs at the National Association for the Education of Homeless Children and Youth.
"They are typically homeless because of a very bad situation at home, abuse or neglect," she says of unaccompanied homeless teens. On the flip side, teens who are homeless with their families may be in a parental role, taking care of younger siblings.
Of the nearly 1.26 million public school students who were homeless during the 2012-2013 school year, about 317,000 were in high school, according to data released last week from the National Center for Homeless Education.
Public schools are required under federal law to ensure homeless students have access to a free public education. Homeless youth are allowed to stay in their school, regardless of where they end up, and schools must provide students transportation to that school.
Housing is among the biggest challenges for the teens she works with, she says, and foster care has not usually been an option for older teens.
Young people who experience homelessness were 87 percent more likely to stop going to school, according to the 2014 Don’t Call Them Dropouts report from the America’s Promise Alliance and its Center for Promise at Tufts University.
One reason it’s so difficult for homeless students to reach graduation is the enormous amount of stress in their lives. An overwhelming number of students there have been exposed to violence of some sort, along with poverty, substance abuse and immigration issues. They’re often in survival mode and sometimes have problems thinking clearly, reasoning and problem solving. The influences of trauma can mimic learning disabilities.
There are a host of stressors associated with homelessness, including substance abuse, poverty, poor nutrition, lack of healthcare, and unsafe and overcrowded living. Many studies have shown the impact this kind of prolonged stress can have on kids. The Adverse Childhood Experiences Study conducted by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention shows stress has detrimental effects on developing neural networks in the brain, especially areas that control memory and verbal ability and mediate anxiety, depression, and anger. For all of these reasons, it can be difficult for many homeless students to learn and retain information.
...Just a few things to think about before school begins in a few weeks.
Monday, August 10, 2015
The Tragedy of Isolation
*Quinn sat across from me and the long pauses between my questions and her answers spoke volumes. Sometimes silence reveals the heart of a conversation without the distraction of words and I could see her searching for ways to convey her story while her two year-old daughter bounced around the room, not paying attention to either of us. Being a homeless single mother presents logistical and practical challenges of all shapes and sizes.
These would be easy to focus on: Balancing a budget, looking for work, attempting to find affordable childcare; all obstacles that can cripple a person trying to take care of herself and her child. Quinn's daily schedule revolves around the youngster who is moving in a thousand different directions at once. Single motherhood is challenging enough without living in a shelter, sharing a small space. But there is a different weight resting on the young mother. A heaviness permeates the room and if she closes her eyes, Quinn is moved by the echoes of all the noises she doesn't hear.
She left Billings a few weeks ago to help take care of her mother; a lot of responsibility for a 25 year-old trying to deal with her own issues. Once she arrived in Kalispell, circumstances changed and her mom's house was too crowded due to an influx of other family members who also were living there, including Quinn's 2 sons. With no place else to stay, she and her daughter ended up in a family unit at Samaritan House.
Quinn will be the first to tell you that she has grown up a lot over the past few years. She was not always in a place where she could take care of her children so her mother helped her out. But now that she is in the process of turning things around, she moved to Kalispell to reconnect with her kids while, at the same time, helping her mother out. And it is during this part of our conversation that the effects of living apart from her sons comes to life.
There is a noticeable difference between separation and isolation. The former indicates a distance between at least two things. Quinn was separated from her sons in a geographical sense, as hundreds of miles were between her and them. And while separation can be sad and lonely, it pales in comparison to isolation. Isolation is a state of existence that acknowledges there is a whole world out there in which a person cannot be involved with. Isolation is an admittance that a person is all alone and unable to connect with anything worthwhile or life-giving. It is heart-breaking and gut-wrenching and Quinn felt it every elapsing day she was away from her sons.
Imagine knowing there was something out there that you loved but you were not in a condition where you could embrace it. What would it feel like to realize part of you was exciting somewhere else and there was little you could do about it? Quinn was not simply separated from her sons. She was isolated.
But now things are different and she is ebbing back into their lives because she is improving her condition. It would have been easy to give up and wallow in despair; just fade into a series of statistics. But she is fighting for her family and what it means to take responsibility for their well being. It is a slow process and she is avoiding mistakes she might have made in the past, as she embraces a future that is conquering isolation.
*Not her real name
These would be easy to focus on: Balancing a budget, looking for work, attempting to find affordable childcare; all obstacles that can cripple a person trying to take care of herself and her child. Quinn's daily schedule revolves around the youngster who is moving in a thousand different directions at once. Single motherhood is challenging enough without living in a shelter, sharing a small space. But there is a different weight resting on the young mother. A heaviness permeates the room and if she closes her eyes, Quinn is moved by the echoes of all the noises she doesn't hear.
She left Billings a few weeks ago to help take care of her mother; a lot of responsibility for a 25 year-old trying to deal with her own issues. Once she arrived in Kalispell, circumstances changed and her mom's house was too crowded due to an influx of other family members who also were living there, including Quinn's 2 sons. With no place else to stay, she and her daughter ended up in a family unit at Samaritan House.
Quinn will be the first to tell you that she has grown up a lot over the past few years. She was not always in a place where she could take care of her children so her mother helped her out. But now that she is in the process of turning things around, she moved to Kalispell to reconnect with her kids while, at the same time, helping her mother out. And it is during this part of our conversation that the effects of living apart from her sons comes to life.
There is a noticeable difference between separation and isolation. The former indicates a distance between at least two things. Quinn was separated from her sons in a geographical sense, as hundreds of miles were between her and them. And while separation can be sad and lonely, it pales in comparison to isolation. Isolation is a state of existence that acknowledges there is a whole world out there in which a person cannot be involved with. Isolation is an admittance that a person is all alone and unable to connect with anything worthwhile or life-giving. It is heart-breaking and gut-wrenching and Quinn felt it every elapsing day she was away from her sons.
Imagine knowing there was something out there that you loved but you were not in a condition where you could embrace it. What would it feel like to realize part of you was exciting somewhere else and there was little you could do about it? Quinn was not simply separated from her sons. She was isolated.
But now things are different and she is ebbing back into their lives because she is improving her condition. It would have been easy to give up and wallow in despair; just fade into a series of statistics. But she is fighting for her family and what it means to take responsibility for their well being. It is a slow process and she is avoiding mistakes she might have made in the past, as she embraces a future that is conquering isolation.
*Not her real name
Wednesday, August 5, 2015
Kids
Next week I will continue writing about some of our residents. Hopefully, these stories convey a little more regarding the issues our residents face. Things become personal when a name and face can be connected to a series of sentences typed on a screen. An important, but often underrepresented, group within the homeless community is children. But before I continue these stories, I want to paint a broad picture of what challenges face kids in poverty.
Sadly, poverty is a hurdle to future financial success, well before a youngster is born. Considering that poor women of all ages are more inclined to not have medical insurance, they frequently delay seeking good prenatal care. Additionally, they could have hypertension, diabetes, or some other health conditions that place their baby in danger of a premature birth. This frequently results in developmental delays that can cause a youngster to fall behind other children of the same age.
Considering the issues that are related to a child's poor prenatal care, youngsters that live in lower income households have increased health issues compared to child who don't. For instance, complications with asthma are more prevalent with children who reside in old houses that have poor ventilation. Obesity is another health problem more prevalent amoungst poor youngsters. This is because a diet that includes fresh produce and lean protein is usually not affordable for low income families despite having the help of food stamps.
After children reach elementary school, often these youngsters end up receiving an inferior education since they move frequently or attend a school that is under-funded. It is among the most lasting negative effects of poverty. Children who don't learn to read, as well as write proficiently in elementary school are more likely to have difficulty while attending high school. Getting bad high school grades reduces the prospects for getting accepted for a college education. Because career advancement is frequently associated with educational achievement, lacking a college degree can often cause a poor child to remain poor.
The federal government offers a number of supportive programs to aid in lessening the long term negative effects of poverty for children. The (WIC) - Women, Infant and Children Nutrition Program provides nourishing food for women who are pregnant and also for youngsters below the age of five. Head Start provides free preschool to youngsters from poor families. This programs lays the fundamental groundwork for long term academic success. All states in the U.S. have a program that provides free or inexpensive medical health insurance to youngsters living in poverty.
Numerous non-profit local community agencies have begun programs to address the long-term effects of poverty on families. The Big Brothers/Big Sisters of America gives favorable adult role models for children who are at risk. The Salvation Army has summer camp activities for low income youngsters. They have programs to teach sports, music, outdoor wilderness skills and arts and crafts. During the holiday season, many faith-based organizations will sponsor needy families to help them enjoy a festive celebration.
Even though those programs do aid in alleviating the strain of poverty to some degree, the fight against poverty is certainly not over. Until there are sufficient jobs that offer a real living wage and more help for moms and dads being affected by addiction or mental health issues, poor youngsters will still be at a disadvantage.
- information courtesy of homelessnessinamerica.com
Next week... Another tale from our residents.
Sadly, poverty is a hurdle to future financial success, well before a youngster is born. Considering that poor women of all ages are more inclined to not have medical insurance, they frequently delay seeking good prenatal care. Additionally, they could have hypertension, diabetes, or some other health conditions that place their baby in danger of a premature birth. This frequently results in developmental delays that can cause a youngster to fall behind other children of the same age.
Considering the issues that are related to a child's poor prenatal care, youngsters that live in lower income households have increased health issues compared to child who don't. For instance, complications with asthma are more prevalent with children who reside in old houses that have poor ventilation. Obesity is another health problem more prevalent amoungst poor youngsters. This is because a diet that includes fresh produce and lean protein is usually not affordable for low income families despite having the help of food stamps.
After children reach elementary school, often these youngsters end up receiving an inferior education since they move frequently or attend a school that is under-funded. It is among the most lasting negative effects of poverty. Children who don't learn to read, as well as write proficiently in elementary school are more likely to have difficulty while attending high school. Getting bad high school grades reduces the prospects for getting accepted for a college education. Because career advancement is frequently associated with educational achievement, lacking a college degree can often cause a poor child to remain poor.
The federal government offers a number of supportive programs to aid in lessening the long term negative effects of poverty for children. The (WIC) - Women, Infant and Children Nutrition Program provides nourishing food for women who are pregnant and also for youngsters below the age of five. Head Start provides free preschool to youngsters from poor families. This programs lays the fundamental groundwork for long term academic success. All states in the U.S. have a program that provides free or inexpensive medical health insurance to youngsters living in poverty.
Numerous non-profit local community agencies have begun programs to address the long-term effects of poverty on families. The Big Brothers/Big Sisters of America gives favorable adult role models for children who are at risk. The Salvation Army has summer camp activities for low income youngsters. They have programs to teach sports, music, outdoor wilderness skills and arts and crafts. During the holiday season, many faith-based organizations will sponsor needy families to help them enjoy a festive celebration.
Even though those programs do aid in alleviating the strain of poverty to some degree, the fight against poverty is certainly not over. Until there are sufficient jobs that offer a real living wage and more help for moms and dads being affected by addiction or mental health issues, poor youngsters will still be at a disadvantage.
- information courtesy of homelessnessinamerica.com
Next week... Another tale from our residents.
Monday, August 3, 2015
Sam and Tiffany
It is dark outside and most of the city is asleep. The streets are quiet at 4am and there is an unassuming tranquility that blankets the community before the sunlight escorts everyone to where they need to be to begin the day. His alarm reminds Sam that it is a new day and he has another opportunity to earn a living building trusses. It only took him a couple weeks to find a good job in Kalispell, and his early morning entry into the workforce is necessary because he has no vehicle.
Samaritan House is about six miles from his place of employment and he rides his bike to and from every day, spending about an hour each way. If a person has never been in a situation like this, it is difficult to understand the demands put on a person to find and secure a job. Rain or shine, Sam peddles to work because he is willing to do what is needed to provide for his wife and son.
A few hours after he departs for work, Tiffany embarks upon a trip to the grocery store. Imagine transporting groceries without a car. Sam's steady employment allows them an opportunity to purchase what they need and still put a little money aside. Tiffany does the best she can being selective when she shops. With limited capabilities to haul what she buys, a stroller is the best option. She carefully loads what she can to transport the food home, even if this means multiple trips at times.
Sam and Tiffany left Oregon with the best of intentions; Life rarely takes our intentions into account, however. They cope every day with each obstacle that would seek to victimize them if they allowed themselves to waiver. Sam's reentry into Kalispell was nothing like he imagined or wanted, but he and his wife refuse to give up. Every day there are people like this couple who find themselves on the brink of homelessness simply because their situation takes a turn and they don't know how to respond.
Viewing homelessness from an outside perspective provides only a narrow glimpse of a vast world. There are obvious issues affecting the homeless that any observer can see or allude to, but these do not paint a holistic picture of what a transient life entails. And while a lack of permanent housing, non-existent medical care, and scarcity of finances are glaring problems, these are the tip of an iceberg that plummets well below the view and understanding of people who have not dealt with homelessness.
Homelessness is not the same as being lazy or criminal or expectant of others to do everything for you. Sam and Tiffany are living testimonies that the American dream takes several different paths for some people. It is an attitude and refusal to be victimized that makes this country great. Just ask this couple.
Samaritan House is about six miles from his place of employment and he rides his bike to and from every day, spending about an hour each way. If a person has never been in a situation like this, it is difficult to understand the demands put on a person to find and secure a job. Rain or shine, Sam peddles to work because he is willing to do what is needed to provide for his wife and son.
A few hours after he departs for work, Tiffany embarks upon a trip to the grocery store. Imagine transporting groceries without a car. Sam's steady employment allows them an opportunity to purchase what they need and still put a little money aside. Tiffany does the best she can being selective when she shops. With limited capabilities to haul what she buys, a stroller is the best option. She carefully loads what she can to transport the food home, even if this means multiple trips at times.
Sam and Tiffany left Oregon with the best of intentions; Life rarely takes our intentions into account, however. They cope every day with each obstacle that would seek to victimize them if they allowed themselves to waiver. Sam's reentry into Kalispell was nothing like he imagined or wanted, but he and his wife refuse to give up. Every day there are people like this couple who find themselves on the brink of homelessness simply because their situation takes a turn and they don't know how to respond.
Viewing homelessness from an outside perspective provides only a narrow glimpse of a vast world. There are obvious issues affecting the homeless that any observer can see or allude to, but these do not paint a holistic picture of what a transient life entails. And while a lack of permanent housing, non-existent medical care, and scarcity of finances are glaring problems, these are the tip of an iceberg that plummets well below the view and understanding of people who have not dealt with homelessness.
Homelessness is not the same as being lazy or criminal or expectant of others to do everything for you. Sam and Tiffany are living testimonies that the American dream takes several different paths for some people. It is an attitude and refusal to be victimized that makes this country great. Just ask this couple.
Wednesday, July 29, 2015
When Life Goes Bad in Oregon
Sam grew up in Kalispell.
He was familiar with the terrain and culture and day to day life in the Flathead Valley. Montana has a unique ability to captivate a person and lull them into a state of contentment and before long, time passes amiably and days and weeks have stretched into years. A great many native sons never leave this state. Not so with Sam. He moved to Oregon and owned his owned his business, and built motor coaches. As much as he loved Montana, he wanted to strike out on his own. He embodied the spirit of the pioneer.
It was during his time in Oregon that he met Tiffany and they began a life together. After some time, the couple moved to Medford and took care of Tiffany's father for a few years, until he passed. During this difficult period, the couple felt they needed to move away from Oregon due to some trying and stressful family situations that began to manifest. Sam had a sister still living in Flathead County, so she enticed them to move. Sam, Tiffany, and their son would have a homecoming, but not one he could have imagined.
Upon arriving back to the place of his childhood, Sam soon realized the anticipated life he expected would not materialize. They gave up their life in Oregon to make a fresh start but nothing panned out as promised. They found temporary lodging with family but this did not last long and they needed a different solution. After 14 years in Oregon, Sam had returned to a place that now seemed as cold and distant as a faraway planet.
Homelessness was never a logical consideration for Tiffany and Sam. Why would it be? They were hard workers and industrious people who were now interjected into an existence they imagined would never happen to them. Eventually they ended up at Samaritan House and needed to start all over again. When Sam scanned the streets and avenues of Kalispell, he saw them though a perspective unbeknown to him, before. Many of the buildings and structures were the same, but the warmth and affection from his childhood was now replaced with a frustrated and frantic view.
With no money, possessions, or transportation, the family was faced with a decision that would affect the rest of their lives. The indelible impression left upon heir nine year old son; the disappointment of a wife and mother of a misrepresented situation; the call of a father to respond to an environment he never imagined. This family was now forced to deal with a life that only happened to other people.
(To be continued...)
He was familiar with the terrain and culture and day to day life in the Flathead Valley. Montana has a unique ability to captivate a person and lull them into a state of contentment and before long, time passes amiably and days and weeks have stretched into years. A great many native sons never leave this state. Not so with Sam. He moved to Oregon and owned his owned his business, and built motor coaches. As much as he loved Montana, he wanted to strike out on his own. He embodied the spirit of the pioneer.
It was during his time in Oregon that he met Tiffany and they began a life together. After some time, the couple moved to Medford and took care of Tiffany's father for a few years, until he passed. During this difficult period, the couple felt they needed to move away from Oregon due to some trying and stressful family situations that began to manifest. Sam had a sister still living in Flathead County, so she enticed them to move. Sam, Tiffany, and their son would have a homecoming, but not one he could have imagined.
Upon arriving back to the place of his childhood, Sam soon realized the anticipated life he expected would not materialize. They gave up their life in Oregon to make a fresh start but nothing panned out as promised. They found temporary lodging with family but this did not last long and they needed a different solution. After 14 years in Oregon, Sam had returned to a place that now seemed as cold and distant as a faraway planet.
Homelessness was never a logical consideration for Tiffany and Sam. Why would it be? They were hard workers and industrious people who were now interjected into an existence they imagined would never happen to them. Eventually they ended up at Samaritan House and needed to start all over again. When Sam scanned the streets and avenues of Kalispell, he saw them though a perspective unbeknown to him, before. Many of the buildings and structures were the same, but the warmth and affection from his childhood was now replaced with a frustrated and frantic view.
With no money, possessions, or transportation, the family was faced with a decision that would affect the rest of their lives. The indelible impression left upon heir nine year old son; the disappointment of a wife and mother of a misrepresented situation; the call of a father to respond to an environment he never imagined. This family was now forced to deal with a life that only happened to other people.
(To be continued...)
Monday, July 27, 2015
Steven and Jessica, The Present
Jessica and Steven celebrated their 10th wedding anniversary while living at Samaritan House. Now, conventional wisdom says there might be a whole slew of places more romantic to commemorate such an event. In fact, if most husbands or wives would suggest a homeless shelter as an anniversary-destination-location to their spouse, there is a great chance there would be no anniversary to celebrate the following year.
The couple was used to having money. Back in Massachusetts, they might not have been wealthy, but they were comfortable. Previous anniversaries were met with gifts and dinners and all the trimmings of society's ideas of what an anniversary should be. Never, in a thousand years, did the couple imagine the reality they would face. And it was a great anniversary; perhaps one of their best.
They had a picnic and focused on what was important: each other. It was a happy occasion because their life was improving and they felt as of they were getting back on their own two feet. It was a reminder that even if they lost every possession they had, they ultimately still had what was most important in life. They had each other.
After their entry into Samaritan House, Jessica decided to pay a visit to the local Boys and Girls Club in Kalispell to see what activities might be available for her kids. It was important to the couple that their family remained active and the Boys and Girls Club would provide an avenue for mental, social, and physical activity for her sons. She soon noticed two things: an advertisement for a summer camp for the kids and a job opening. Jessica would eventually secure both. Steven began volunteering his time, as well, sharing his artistic abilities with kids at the club. It was important to him that he set an example to his family. Being homeless did not equate with being a victim.
And that's what this whole story has been about, really.
It would have been easy and convenient for this family to have given up at any point along their journey. But they continued to persevere through each situation and never gave up hope. They have learned to be grateful in the midst of disparity and found that giving back to others helps them heal and move forward.
They will not be at Samaritan House forever, but the time spent there lets them reflect on their life and what they've gone through. Growing closer together permits them to affect change in other people's lives. Steven and Jessica never intended to become homeless, but life often tries to dictate circumstances to us. It's how we respond that counts and allows us to feel a connection to the rest of humanity.
This was one specific family's story, but it could be anyone's.
The couple was used to having money. Back in Massachusetts, they might not have been wealthy, but they were comfortable. Previous anniversaries were met with gifts and dinners and all the trimmings of society's ideas of what an anniversary should be. Never, in a thousand years, did the couple imagine the reality they would face. And it was a great anniversary; perhaps one of their best.
They had a picnic and focused on what was important: each other. It was a happy occasion because their life was improving and they felt as of they were getting back on their own two feet. It was a reminder that even if they lost every possession they had, they ultimately still had what was most important in life. They had each other.
After their entry into Samaritan House, Jessica decided to pay a visit to the local Boys and Girls Club in Kalispell to see what activities might be available for her kids. It was important to the couple that their family remained active and the Boys and Girls Club would provide an avenue for mental, social, and physical activity for her sons. She soon noticed two things: an advertisement for a summer camp for the kids and a job opening. Jessica would eventually secure both. Steven began volunteering his time, as well, sharing his artistic abilities with kids at the club. It was important to him that he set an example to his family. Being homeless did not equate with being a victim.
And that's what this whole story has been about, really.
It would have been easy and convenient for this family to have given up at any point along their journey. But they continued to persevere through each situation and never gave up hope. They have learned to be grateful in the midst of disparity and found that giving back to others helps them heal and move forward.
They will not be at Samaritan House forever, but the time spent there lets them reflect on their life and what they've gone through. Growing closer together permits them to affect change in other people's lives. Steven and Jessica never intended to become homeless, but life often tries to dictate circumstances to us. It's how we respond that counts and allows us to feel a connection to the rest of humanity.
This was one specific family's story, but it could be anyone's.
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